Book Review: Americanah by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie — November 24, 2016

Book Review: Americanah by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie

Americanah follows the lives of two adolescents and their experiences into adult life to put it extremely simply.

Race, relationships, immigration struggles, culture (and culture shock), politics and not giving up are factors that make up this story without giving away too much.

This novel is relatable, the characters are developed well feel like people you know. Because of this you empathy comes easily. There are also many circumstances to sympathise with. Unfulfilling job/ career, being in social settings with people you have little in common with (frequently), the air of hope felt during the Obama campaign, making difficult decisions, realising your own worth… 

I loved how Adichie portrayed the honest  beauty that are all highs, lows and subzero levels that make up a persons life.

Adichie did an amazing job creating both culturally specific and universally appealing characters. With immigration being a big political issue in first world countries, and being the child of immigrant parents, it was interesting to read about the experiences of Ifemelu, Obinze and their relatives. This also lead me to wonder what readers unfamiliar with this struggle would have thought reading this novel.

The end was short, sweet and satisfying. It gave me a sense of hope that despite all  of my “stuff”, I’m working through and to something and I just have keep moving forward, the way the Ifemelu and Obinze did.

I have recommended this book to several of my friends and cannot wait to hear their views.
Have you read Americanah and what did you think of it?

Music Review: K.I.N.G (Live at The VillageUnderground 07/11/16) — November 8, 2016

Music Review: K.I.N.G (Live at The VillageUnderground 07/11/16)

Yesterday my brother took me to see K.I.N.G. perform as a birthday gift.

We stopped at Be @ One Liverpool Street for a quick cocktail. They are by far my favourite chain of bar. Strong cocktails, friendly and skilled staff and great atmosphere every time I go. Some say this is fairly often. This time was no exception. I ordered Rum Punch for us and after a few sips my brother asked for extra orange juice!

A few hours earlier when I accepted his invitation to see K.I.N.G I knew absolutely nothing about them other than they were a group made up of the three women. I had heard a few avid music lovers speak amorously about their work but I had not listened to any of it.

I considered doing a little research but decided against that. The ticket was a gift, I’d unwrap the gift later, at the show.

Queueing outside, the crowd was a little mixed but very urban. The age group was 20’s to the late 30’s, possibly 40, and thinking back didn’t give much away about the genre of music to expect.

K.I.N.G. live are an experience! Their work falls into funk, soul and at times nearly RnB in my opinion. Although not my typical musical choice, I recognise and appreciate excellence. The vocals were sweet and strong and complimented each other perfectly and the production… let’s just say that the producer knows music!

The London fans definitely showed love and I was slightly envious that as I had not not heard their music before I could not sing along too. 

My favourite tracks were the ones with a more RnB sound. But what can I say, I’m a product of the 90’s.

I’m looking forward to listening to their album and getting the studio perspective of everything I heard.

A live K.I.N.G. event is for sure time and money well spent and definitely recommended. 

Really enjoyed my birthday gift!

Still Good… — November 7, 2016

Still Good…

I was tired of waiting for him to organise date number 3 so send him a cryptic message (on 21/10/16).

Me: 3/11/16

Him: Hey Ash, what’s that?

Me: Date night. 

Him: I’m trying to see you next week if possible. 

Me: Ok. Lol.. 

(That caught me off guard, stay cool…)

I know you’re always busy so I decided to make an appointment. But glad you’d already fit me in. 

(Semi cool?)

Him: Yeah for sure lool. 

Do you actually have something planned for 3/11/16?

Me: No but I would have planned something once you agreed to it..

(Lost the cool -_-)


So we met up for bowling and dinner. Bowling is one of the many sports that I’m not any good at but it was fun. 

He did, after I made it clear I was serious , give in and allow me to have the sides up. 

What would be the point of playing if all of my balls went down the drain? 

Despite my advantage, I still managed to maintain quite an impressive losing streak but by the end of the game I won. Which I’m sure he allowed as I witnessed him perform some amazing strikes, getting the ball to curl at his will. I see you gentleman!

Dinner was nice we ate and then talked until closing. We covered many topics – work, uni, relationships, religion, previous people we had met, the differences between West and South London and what we liked about each other.

He liked that I was easy going and not guarded like a lot of girls he had met who been through negative experiences with guys they had previously dated. 

I liked that he had an approach that was different to any guy I had met, so different that I couldn’t work him out. He had a vibe of “sweetness” that verged on innocence. But I didn’t believe it. He found that really funny. 

But could he blame me? He’d described his boys as savages lol. The types who stand outside the club at the end of the night trying to get every last number. Could he be different or could his savagery just be on a whole other level?

Whatever it is I’m still interested.

Emotions 2016 — October 26, 2016

Emotions 2016

How am I feeling right now? Pissed would be an understatement!

As someone who contributed somewhat to me having life but still managed to skip willy nilly in and out of it I have refused to feel any kind of need for you. 

The fact that you have the nerve to not contact me for almost a year (which was pretty common during childhood) then call me out of the blue with advice and Christian guidance not knowing what I have been through recently PISSES ME OFF! But I feel like I can’t be mad because you obviously mean well. 

I’m angry at myself mainly for not being able to get this out and across to you in the manner that you deserve to hear it. But I guess that’s how I address all situations of conflict – passively. 

What I wanted to say was who are you to be giving me advice about my life when you’re not even apart of??

You’ve been trying to call me? When? Yes, this is a new number but it’s only 4 weeks old, my previous one worked for the past year?

Oh this prophet advised you to speak to your daughter? Aren’t I lucky that he thought of me and reminded you that you have a daughter? And other family members that you should call. With a phone. Since it’s 2016. And they’ve exist for several decades now.

Then you end it with telling me that you love me. Something that I have been living perfectly well without. And frankly don’t feel that I need from you or any other man to feel live a fulfilled and happy life. Because honestly hearing you say that made me mad.

“Effie We All Got Pain” — October 18, 2016

“Effie We All Got Pain”

The more I speak to my peers the more I realise that we all have something negative going on in our. 

One of my colleagues relationship is on its last legs. Another colleagues friend has cancer. “Everyone” I know seems to have financial struggles. And me, come December I’ll be unemployed. 

In life there isn’t a “time” to suck it up, as an adult it’s just something you have to do. Which is not easy, ever. Especially since I like to dwell and hold grudges. 

But I’m learning…

Yesterday, I got a final warning from work and, as you can probably imagine, I was pissed. Going to work today was the last thing I wanted to do. If I had my way I would never have bothered to step foot in that place again. But I did – because I’m an adult. 

As bad as I was and still feel, in the grand scheme of things its not that big. Also and more importantly I’m not getting the sympathy I was looking for as no one seems to care lol.   

Dealing with stressful and uncomfortable situations is something that I am working on? What situations have you are you currently dealing with in your life and how did you deal with it? Can you recommend anything?

Movie Review: Don’t Breathe — October 14, 2016

Movie Review: Don’t Breathe

⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

A great thriller – especially for a date night. A typical thriller synopsis with excellent filming, casting and suspense moments.

I’m known for my love of animations and movies that make you think but picked this movie to impress my date. 

Mission failed! I was jumping out of my seat from the opening credits LOL. Holding hands, covering my face and grabbing his knee. I think I even half screamed at one point. He enjoyed the movie, barely flinched and was even making jokes at times. 

I don’t want to give anything away as I think its definitely worth the watch. I also hate when people give the storyline away as I just end up watching the movie waiting for those parts to happen 😑

So hurry up and watch it! Soo many “wtf” moments await you.

Song Review: Solange – Cranes In The Sky —

Song Review: Solange – Cranes In The Sky

⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

This song. 

#Sigh. 

Because of this song I haven’t been able to move past the third track from Solange’s new album, ‘A Seat At The Table’. I really want to – but I get to this track and just have to play it on repeat.
This track almost completely mirrors the last 6 years of my life it gives me chills (and almost hurts my feelings). Her admissions were almost identical to mine and it felt like she was reading my diary out loud. Assuming that this is her story, her honesty is very much appreciated. The only line missing is “I tried to eat it away…” LOL!

Life and growth is a journey that we all go through. The choices we make make perfect sense at the time but hindsight annoyingly highlights, and underlines, all of the bad ones. There’s no going back or do-overs but there’s no better teacher that experience.

Back to the track… The visuals are stunning. Striking, delicate and full of texture (?) much like how she performs the song. The vocals are smooth and effortless. The instrumental is.. smooth and effortless too. Together they simply are an artist experience.

If this is a taste of what is to come later in the album I cannot wait!

 

What song/album are you listening to now that has you about to break the repeat button?

What do you like most about it?

Have you listened to A Seat At The Table and what is your favourite track?